Contributed By Sri Gayathri
Girl in her 20’s is a blend of emotions, experiences and of course expectations. And all it takes is how she balances herself between these things in her life.So, here’s what I feel that a girl in her 20’s should know in her life.
1. LOVE YOURSELF
“Ever looked in the mirror and wondered what a beautiful creation god has created?” If not just go and take a look now. You are beautiful just the way you are. Stop comparing with others and always remember that you are beautiful and you are worthy of everything this world holds .Just love yourself. Because “if you don’t then who will darling?”
2. HAVE A BUCKET LIST OF THINGS TO DO
Hell yeah!! Make a list of things which you want to do before you die. Take a pen and paper and write down all the things that you want to do and experience in this beautiful life. They may be small or big but just go with the flow while writing them down. Experiencing them later sure brings a lot of happiness to your life. After all life is short! .So yeah go and grab it.
3. CHOOSE YOUR CAREER
Now here comes the crucial part of life. Most of the girls in 20’s get confused about which path to choose for their career.Well,no worries girl! just jot down the professions that fascinates you the most and that draws you towards them and choose a profession that means a lot to you from them. Strive hard for that and sure success follows you. But in some cases if you cannot follow the dream you crave for. In such case just relax and first just choose a decent profession with some good salary and later work on your dreams. Don’t worry you can make it. Because dreams are worth chasing for!
4. KNOW THAT YOU ARE ENOUGH
Yeah you are enough .Never let a break up or a rejection makes you feel that you are not good enough. Rejection doesn’t mean that you that are not good enough .It just means that the other person has his own opinion of how his partner should be. So, just know that you have nothing to do with it. And break up just means that you are not compatible with each other. So, don’t worry time comes when you will find a happily ever after.
5. LONELINESS VS SOLITUDE
Now this is one of the most important things a girl in 20’s should know. Never let peer pressure, your single status or your loneliness make you rush into a relationship or make you chase people for a relationship. This creates a mess and life becomes tough to handle because you feel that you are incomplete and you search for a person that fills your space and pampers you. But the thing is that when you don’t feel happy and complete with yourself how can you expect others to feel happy around you? So,know that you are complete and enjoy your solitude. Fill your space with your hobbies and interests and learn new things. Life is much more than just rushing into a relationship that too because of loneliness. So just enjoy your solitude and rock your single status
6. TRY TO LIVE ALONE
Once in your early 20’s try to live away from your family. This makes you learn about your expenses and helps you manage your own self all by yourself.
7. BE INDEPENDENT
Pursue a job. Pay for your expenses. Know how to ride a bike or car. Enjoy time with yourself. Learn to cook. Whatever you do just be independent .Independence gives the ability to live. Independence gives strength and courage to face situations. And yeah sooner or later it fetches you respect in the society.
No matter what you do and where you stay take care of your health. Health is one of the most important things to take care of that too in today’s lifestyle. So just make sure that you exercise daily for at least 30 minutes may it be cycling or yoga or whatever you feel like doing, have a good night sleep of 8 hours ,drink lots of water and make sure that you eat fiber rich and protein rich food avoiding carbohydrates. Have a healthy lifestyle and it all starts by waking up early
9. MAKE A TO-DO-LIST
Have a habit of making a to-do-list. Just jot down all the things to do the next day and gradually make it a habit of doing all the things in that list without fail. A pocket notepad and a pen is required and your day is planned. This also helps you in achieving time management in the future as you plan things in a structured way one after the other
Solo trip or a travel plan with friends. Whatever it may be just travel as much as you can. Explore places. Talk to strangers. Connect your soul with the beauty of the nature and learn new cultures in different parts of the world. I am sure that you will never return alone but with tons and tons of happiness, peace and memories welled up in you. Remember travelling always brings out the best in you
11. READ BOOKS
Books are the best and true friends you can gain in your life.So,fill your life with beautiful and self help books for books change in your life in the most enthralling way possible
12. LEARN TO SAY “NO”
Yeah. Don’t say yes when you really don’t like doing something or when you really don’t feel it the correct thing to do just because it makes the other person feel embarrassed. Just make an eye contact take a breath and just in a polite tone say “NO”.
13. LOVE AND MARRIAGE
Know yourself. Know what you want in you partner. Have your own qualities that you want in him. If you don’t know just stay silent ,relax and think of the traits you look for in a partner. You will sure get them. And when you are sure that you found him make sure that understanding is the key for your happy life. And when it comes to marriage know that marriage is not the end but the beginning of a most responsible life.So,take time and go for it only when you feel that you are ready for it. Don’t rush for it.
14. START CARING LESS ABOUT THE SOCIETY
Don’t let your neighborhood aunty or your uncle among the relatives say that you should get married or you should stop chasing your dreams or anything that effects the path you have chosen for yourself .People only reflect their opinions of a particular thing. That doesn’t mean that you cannot achieve your dreams or you should get hurried in certain things.
15. FEEL RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR FAMILY
Now a days its hard to find time for the family. We 20’s will be in a rush chasing our lives that we find very less time for our family. Just remember that family is the most important thing in this world and they stand with us no matter what. So, try to support your family financially, buy things for them, spend weekends with them if possible, talk to them every day on phone, have family get together once in a while. Family has that greatest power to make you feel strong when you are low. Never give up on them
16. ACCEPT THE SITUATIONS
Always remember that “Accepting the reality gives greatest strength than anything else in this world”. So, whatever problem or situation you come across just accept it and find ways to face it instead of wondering why it happened to you. Accept.Think.Find ways to solve and finally solve the problem that’s it.
17. HELP AS MUCH AS YOU CAN
Helping others is the best way for self satisfaction. So, try to help people around you. May it be your friends, colleagues,poor people or anyone. Just try to lit a smile on their faces through your help
18. MAINTAIN HEALTHY FRIENDSHIPS
Surround yourself with friends that encourage you and accept you for what you are. Anyone that diminishes your light and make you feel bad about you doesn’t deserve you.
19. FOCUS ON YOURSELF
Finally, everything starts with yourself .So, always make yourself look presentable, make sure you behave well and polite with others and most of all make sure you are comfortable and happy with yourself for you should first have a world and be content with it to welcome people into it. As it is said “Everything starts with yourself”
20. BE YOURSELF
Last but not least, no matter what, always and always, be your own self. It helps in ways you’ve never imagined.
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