Contributed by Beulah Sandala
Recent ga ma mummy valla best friend kuthuridi pelli kudhirindi. Peruki ma amma friend kuthuru aina, naku kuda picha close. Eppati nuncho arey okka function kuda ledu ani anukuntunna nenu, finally happy aipoya. Manchi manchi dresses eskoni, full ga selfies digesi racha cheddamu ani fix aipoya. Pelli fix aiye roju na friend, ade ee pelli kuthuru call chesi ‘nuvu please ma intiki raava, naku thodu’ ani adigindi. Inka adigindi ani vella. Idi first time nenu alanti event ki elladam. Munde na nooru chala peddadi, edi unna moham mida chepe type nenu ani ma amma mundu roje warning ichi pampindi. ‘Akkada nuvu em matladaku. Moham mida expressions marchaku’ ani.
Nenu kuda ‘haa sare le amma em annanu’ eni vella.
Ee marriage 100% arranged marriage annamaata. Paiga na friend full silent manishi. Evariki edurinchi oka maata cheppadu.
Pelli koduku valla family ocharu, abbaiyi ammaiyi matladu kunnaru… antha bagundi. Kaani, pelli fix avvakanna few minutes mundu oka talk jarigindi. Adi jaragakanna mundu pelli kuturi, pelli koduku inka mammalni lopaliki pampinchesaru.
Kaani naku konchem sugar ekkuva kabatti, aagaleka door deggara ninchoni valla maatalu vindam ani try chesa. Valla topic katnam (dowry). Abbaiyi valla family adige amount, vaalla demands anni vini na mind block aipoindi. Asalu reflex reaction em ivvaalo kuda ardam kaaledu. Asalu ala ela adigestunnaru ra babu ani anipinchindi. Kaani aunty uncle, valla demands annitiki oppeskunnaru. Pelli fix aipoindi. Dates kuda fix aipoyayi.
Nen akkada em matladaleka poya. Daniki 2 reasons, okati ‘niku enduku nuv chinna pillavi’ ani antaru. Inkokati ma amma munde cheppi mari pampindi em matladoddo ani.
Akkada andaru chala happy ga mottam event continue chesaru. Ikkada pelli kuthuru, pelli koduku kuda happy happy ga unnaru. Kaani na mind lo maatram nenu vinna conversation maatrame nadustunde. Entha ignore cheddam ani ankukunna na valla avvaledu.
Intiki ochina tarvata ee scene mottam ma amma ki cheptey ma amma chala normal ga ‘ila avtundi ani vallu money mottam enno years nunchi ready ga pettukunnaru’ ani annindi. Nenu shock avvaledu kaani, chala antey chala baadha padda.
Aroju raatri antha dini gurinche alochistunna padukunna.
Ante oka ammaiyi laaga pudithe ila feel avtada?
Parents ki oka ammaiyi pudithe vallu inta savings cheyyala?
Oka kuthuri pelli cheyyali antey mana parents 25 years of savings pettesayala?
Ila 100 questions. Kaani no answers
Ee incident aiyi almost 2 months avtunna, aa scene inka na mind lo alane undi.
Na doubt enti antey… Enduku? Why? Aa money enduku? Aa abbaiyi software lo pedda job, ammaiyi kuda software lo job. Iddaru saripoye antha, samaananga sampadistaru, aina kuda dowry enduku? Paatha kaalam lo aitey nenu oppukunta boss, ammailu pani cheyakapotunde. Kaani ippudu adi kuda chestunnaru ga ammailu.
Marriage is about finding a life partner, to share your life. But why does it feel like a business transaction?
Diniki solution taking a goddamn stand. All the women, for themselves. For your families. All the men too. Stand tall ith pride and say ‘naa dabbulu nene earn cheskunta’ Miru aa money tiskovadam wrong ani realise avvaali. Vallu enno years nunchi kastapadi sampadinchina dabbu, ela adugutam ani oka self question cheskondi. Parents vaalla money prema tho koduku kuthuruki ivvadam veru. Nuvvu adagadam veru. Know the difference.
So, this is my take on this topic. Miku ganuka ee vishayam meeda vere abhiprayaalu unna leda ee article tho connect aiyunna, let me know in the comments below.
